Retirement and Work-Life Balance is B.S.

Retirement and Work-Life Balance is B.S. - Relentless Dentist Podcast

What comes to mind when you hear the term “work-life balance”? How about when you think about retirement? I get a fair amount of questions about these two topics—likely because this podcast is all about engineering a practice that provides for your epic life—but I’m here to tell you that I think both work-life balance and retirement are complete b.s.

In this episode, I go on a bit of a rant about why these two ideas really bother me. Listen in to hear why I don’t agree with the thought that we should have a clear distinction between work and the other aspects of our lives, the reason I think retirement is a bad idea, and how we should all go about designing lives that give us purpose and fulfillment.

Key Quotes:

  • “Is ‘work-life balance’ implying that one is bad and that we should balance it with the other one? I don’t know—I have a hard time with that. Most people get their purpose and a lot of their identity from their work.”
  • “Why can’t we have a vision that blurs the lines between work and play?”
  • “I think that’s a common theme in 100% of people, that you should be growing and evolving and serving. And most people do that through their work.”
  • “My life is fueling my work, and my work is fueling my life. So can we just all call it life and integrate it?”
  • “I, quite frankly, want to work the day before I die. I want to work until the end, delivering value.”
  • “You’re serving the patient by being influential. You’re serving your team by giving them a culture, a place that they enjoy and collaborate and have a shared vision. All those components fuel your life.”
  • “Five years we’ve been talking about designing an epic practice to fuel your epic life. It’s a vehicle to get what you want—to live the life that you want—but it all has to be engineered with intention.”
  • “Can we stop talking about retirement, and can we stop talking about work-life balance? I think they’re both complete bullshit, and I think they take people down paths that they shouldn’t even consider.”
  • “Design a work schedule that gives you purpose, that gives you meaning, that gives you challenge and allows you to grow, and let that fuel your life.”

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Practice Growth and the Cave You Most Fear

Practice Growth and the Cave You Most Fear - RD Podcast

This episode is all about understanding your fears and finding effective ways to lead and grow your practice. The pain of fear can be so crippling but it doesn’t have to hold you back if you don’t let it. We’ll go over the common fears people have when it comes to their practice and challenge you to not let that fear get in your way by choosing courage over comfort.

First you’ll learn about the different hats that dentists, especially leaders, should be wearing and how to develop your leadership skills to bring out the best in your team. The next step is finding where fear is holding you back so you’ll learn about some common ways that fear keeps you from growing and how to push past those issues.

Key Quotes:

  • “There are several hats that dentists have to wear and I think the leader themselves should wear a few different hats.”
  • “The common theme I see in the purpose of all people is that they should be growing and expanding and they should be serving.”
  • “The way that we’re going to grow now is to grow the people. Grow their confidence and grow their capabilities.”
  • “If you’re not intentional about growth, increasing the skillsets of people that are there and increasing your own skillsets, it’s an easy way to have your practice inadvertently plateau.”
  • “In a practice you actually have to encourage people to make mistakes.”
  • “Capability comes after courage. After some reps you’re developing some confidence.”
  • “You can’t be the leader who criticizes them for making mistakes because they will stop making the effort.”
  • “Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s doing something that you fear. The fears never really go away.”

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Dictators and Daily Disciplines

Dictators and Daily Disciplines - Relentless Dentist Podcast

In this episode Dr. Dave Maloley sits down with Dr. Mark Costes to share some valuable tips on practice leadership, life balance and maintaining motivation and focus on the daily disciplines. The two discuss how to harness your dark side, the impact of mortality motivation, what dictates the upper limit of your practice and much more.

Dr. Dave talks about some painful lessons he has learned along the way and how he stays centered. He shares some really valuable techniques to hold onto motivation, lessons learned and focus without letting it slip over time. Dr. Dave also talks about how to use passion as a rocket booster in your life and which areas you should make sure you’re ‘trending upward‘ in.

Key Quotes:

“It’s not whether or not you ever make a bad decision or misstep. It’s what happens in realizing you made a mistake and what you do with that information.” – Dr. Mark

“I think the practice needs to provide you with things other than, you know, a definite paycheck, consistency and ability to grow as a leader – and that’s to influence and impact others.” – Dr. Dave

“I think there’s a lot of guilt that goes into dentistry when you’re not completely engaged.” – Dr. Dave

“I’m grateful for the journey because it’s only made me stronger going through it.” – Dr. Dave

“Most of us are a blend of personalities but we have a dominant.” – Dr. Mark

“We need to serve our practice and our patience, no doubt, but we need to engineer it in a way that it’s serving us.” – Dr. Dave

“Realizing it could all end at any time is sometimes the ultimate motivation.” – Dr. Dave

“When you have an idea, it doesn’t have to stay an idea – It doesn’t have to stay an idea with enough action and vision.” – Dr. Dave

“At some point, no matter how much we’re rocked, we can get sucked back into that whirlwind and forget how important those lessons were.” – Dr. Mark

“Are we going to be victims of this or are we going to use this to strengthen our relationships, to increase the way we view the world, how we’re going to come at the world when we have future challenges. So did this happen to you or for you.” – Dr. Mark

“If you stick with the fundamentals and stick with the vision, anything is possible. It’s just a matter of time between point A and point B.” – Dr. Dave

“We’re swinging for home runs when the magic is really in daily disciplines and installing new habits.” – Dr. Dave

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Influence and the 80-Year-Old Man

Influence and the 80-Year-Old Man - Relentless Dentist Podcast

Today’s episode is all about the power of influence and living in a way that inspires others to do their best work. Leadership is all about figuring out who we have to become for our teams, and it’s up to us to ask ourselves if we’re really walking the talk—or if we’re all talk.

Inspired by his father’s recent 80th birthday party (where celebrating the way his father has lived his life drove home the fact that making an impact is all about integrity and honoring your word) Dr. Dave discusses why we all need to think about how we’re showing up in our practices. Listen in to hear what he says makes a great leader and his advice for all dentists to level up their lives, as well as their practices.

Key Quotes:

  • “Leadership is influence; nothing more, nothing less.”
  • “If you want hard workers, be the hardest worker in the room. If you want integrity, you have to honor your word and do what you say.”
  • “If you walk a straight line, if you practice what you preach if you develop a mission and core values that are very clear and you embody those values, it may take some work, but you’re bound to have a team that supports you in that mission, that vision, and those values.”
  • “As dentists, we often get wrapped around, how do we do this? What’s the strategy? What’s the recipe? Because that’s how we’re taught dentistry. … But leadership and running a practice and having an epic life is much different from that.”
  • “I think it’s important that, first, we know exactly what we want; that’s the clarity piece of high performance. Then, it’s important to know why we want it.”
  • “Goals are important, but the who—who do you have to become?—is probably the most important strategy to leveling up your life and leveling up your practice.”
  • “Think about what you want from your practice. Get that clarity. But realize who you have to become, what sort of leader and influencer you need to be, and start walking that.”

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Dr. David Rice on Leadership and Educating the Next Generation of Dentists

Dr. David Rice on Leadership & Educating the Next Generation of Dentists

As a young dentist just starting out, it can be hard to know which direction to take your career. But thanks to people like Dr. David Rice, the next generation of dentists can get access to tools that will help them succeed on both the clinical and business side. Not only has David achieved success in his career, but he’s also done—and continues to do—amazing things to help dental students along their own paths to success.

The founder of igniteDDS—a free continuing education community for dental students and young dental professionals that provides live local events, online webinars, and more—David is passionate about helping younger dentists navigate their early years in the industry. In this episode, he shares the wisdom he wants to impart on up and coming dentists, the mantra that helped him get to where he is today, and inspiring insights that both new and seasoned dentists ought to take to heart.

Key Quotes:

  • “Sometimes we’re worried about the tactic, or the strategy, or the meeting, or the conversational skillset to get our team to reach higher levels, but oftentimes we’re not treating them outrageously well.”
  • “I highly recommend some kind of postgraduate program to everybody. It was such an instrumental year for me, not only to pull all the concepts that didn’t quite make sense to me in dental school together, but confidence and speed and the ability to know … if someone else can do it, so can I.”
  • “I’m a huge fan of young dentists to choose mentorship over money whenever possible because those first three to five years are so, so important.”
  • “We’re so conditioned throughout our formal education to tell somebody the answer … but it’s easy to make a mistake when we try to just talk at people as opposed to really listening to what they have to say.”
  • “The more you invest in the person sitting knee-to-knee with you, the faster you’re going to grow and be successful.”
  • “We’re really not a patient-centered practice; we’re really a team-centered practice. And when our culture is firing on all cylinders, the patients just come in, and they feel it, and they respond.”
  • “Spending time working on your business is really, really valuable, and it’s easy to lose that time because you’re so busy trying to produce dentistry.”
  • “Challenges are a part of the game, but you can get through it on the other side and sometimes—if you play it right—come back stronger.”
  • “Take the leap. Don’t be afraid to jump out of the plane and figure out how to open the parachute on the way down.”

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