Finding the Balance Between Selfishness and Selflessness with Nate Rivera

Finding the Balance Between Selfishness & Selflessness with Nate Rivera

After eight years of accounting, Nate Rivera decided he needed to find something that really drove him and allowed him to interact with people the way he wanted to. Now, years later, Nate is on his way to his doctorate in dentistry. He joins the show today to discuss his transition into dentistry and why the idea of being a father pushed him to take the initial steps.

Listen in as Nate shares his advice on staying positive throughout the hardships of going through dental school, especially during uncertain times such as these. You will learn the high-performance habits that he has established in his life, including his morning routine. If you have been considering transitioning into dentistry as a second career, this is the episode for you.

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Key Quotes:

  • “For me, the biggest thing was setting up a really solid, non-negotiable morning routine.”
  • “I knew going into dentistry that sitting down, finding that clarity, establishing a vision for myself was something that was really important for me as far as success goes.”
  • “Good is the enemy of great.”
  • “What was most important to me was basically building a family, being there for my family all the time, and having them number one.”
  • “If you think that you are just going to wake up and let it happen, succeed, and do really well—it can be tough, especially if you have a family.”
  • “Setting myself up for success meant making money.”

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Hey Jude and Your Epic Life

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One of the most common questions received on this show is how to organize and engineer a high-performance life. In this episode, Dr. Dave will be giving you an inside look at his 4×4 epic life matrix that he uses to design and keep his life on track. He explains not only how to use it but also gives examples based on how he fills out and uses his.

Dr. Dave breaks down the basics of this model by explaining the different elements that go into it, such a: values, experiences, development, giving and much more. He shows how these different areas of your life can be categorized, mapped out and organized in a way that is efficient and highly effective.

Key Quotes:

“How do we find the magic moments in each day to feel truly grateful for.”

“I can have whatever I want as long as I can get really clear on what I want and put forth the energy to execute it.”

“As a high-performance coach, I’m coaching my clients in 5 categories: clarity, energy, courage, productivity, and influence.”

“Oftentimes I got to the target and it didn’t necessarily make me feel the way that I wanted it to feel.”

“Who you think you are is really how you interact.”

“If we don’t engineer this stuff, we can spend a lot of time in stress, anxiety, depression, and discontent.”

“I actually have a list of people in this category that I want to make sure I’m investing in.”

“I want to make sure I’m giving and I’m serving in a proper way.”

“I’m not looking for mastery now, I’m looking for incremental improvements.”

“High-performance coaching is uninstalling these limiting beliefs and installing powerful habits and rituals.”

“We’re chasing other peoples’ versions of success. Take some time and make your own.”

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Dr. Chris Phelps on Using Pre-suasion to Encourage Receptiveness in Patients

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We are welcoming back Dr. Chris Phelps to the show this week to talk more about pre-suasion and the principles behind it. He explains the difference between pre-suasion and persuasion and why it’s so important to prep your clients in the right way in order to get them in the right mindset to be open to suggested procedures. He discusses in detail the science and case studies behind this concept, explains why it’s so successful, and gives specific tips on how to incorporate it into your practice.

This fascinating practice is not as complicated as it seems, especially with Chris explaining the importance of mindset and how little changes can make a big impact on the client experience. From creating the right environment to using the right language, there are so many little tweaks you can make to your practice to get on the same page with your clients and work with them more successfully. Chris even shares some of his own tactics and explains how he implemented them and why he thinks they worked so well.

Key Quotes:

  •  “Pre-suasion is an amplifier of principles.”
  • “Where we’re at is all about our mindset at that given time and that’s what shapes our decision in those times.”
  • “Instead of waiting for moments to happen with persuasion influence, we can actually prime the pump for a yes. We can actually create these influence moments on the front end before the patient gets in front of us.”
  • “Let’s start asking the right type of mindset questions.”
  • “That’s what pre-suasion is all about – timing is everything.”
  •  “Identify triggers that queue or create that mindset.”
  • “How can we extend the moment.”
  • “He did study after study to prove that these concepts exist and not only do they exist – what turns them on and what makes them more powerful.”
  • “If it’s reproducible that means it is teachable and it’s learnable.”
  • “My process is probably a lot like yours, it’s trial and error right? I don’t know until I try and it’s a messy process and I make a lot of mistakes but, you know what, some of my best ideas and systems have been born out of that.”

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Finding Perspective in Tough Situations – A Story of Resignation and the One Armed Cowboy

The last 48 hours have been quite a test for Dr. Dave so in this episode he will share what he learned about fixing the frame and keeping things in perspective. It’s so easy to let problems take over your mind and distract you from other important areas of your life so he shares how to not let tough situations get you bogged down and off track. You’ll learn more about frame control and how to make sure you stop things that cause you to leak energy.

Dr. Dave discusses the importance of simulating and looking for triggers that will pull you out of distracted or distressed states. He emphasizes how important it is to be able to keep moving and even double down in other areas of your life when one area seems to be going all wrong. He shares valuable tips on how to regain mental control, clarity, peace and perspective in situations that seem out of control.

Key Quotes:

  • “If you control the frame, you control the game and the frame is the context or belief through which a person, situation or conversation is perceived.”
  • “You can imagine how I’m triggered in this moment – I start arguing with this email.”
  • “Just like a cowboy, right. You just get back on the horse and ride.”
  •  “You have plenty to be grateful for but there’s also plenty going wrong at any given moment so what you focus on determines your physiology, your energy, a lot of these things we talk about in high performance coaching.”
  • “You can engineer triggers or look for triggers that put you in a more positive state so that you’re not leaking energy.”
  • “When things aren’t going well in one part of your life, it pays to double down in the other important pillars of your life.”
  • “Focusing on my business would not give me power so I focused on the things that WOULD give me power.”

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Using Meditation to Reach Your Peak Performance

Get your questions ready because Dr. Dave will be doing something a bit different – answering your questions on the show. Meditation is the topic of this episode’s question so he talks about his journey with meditation – from discovering it and finding a rhythm with it and then switching up his practice later on to serve him better. Dr. Dave has had a lot of success after adopting meditation as a regular practice into his life and some great insight from his own experience that might help you develop your own practice.

Although he still emphasizes exercise as the number one thing to keep you on your game and thriving, he says that meditation would come in as a close second. Dr. Dave addresses some common issues with meditation and explains how he ultimately made it his own and found a way to make it a regular, important part of his daily routine. The benefits of meditation range from mental clarity and stress reduction to even lessening the effects of aging. Dave attests to this and shares his best tips on how to meditate and take care of yourself so that you can, in turn, care for your practice, team, family and community the way you want to.

Key Quotes:

  • “As we talk about high performance, I think meditation is something we need to talk more and more about.”
  • “I’m going to be rolling out some unique ideas to serve you, the listener, better.”
  • “Making it a habit and a ritual so it’s easier to do than not to do is key.”
  • “Traditionally [Meditation] has been overcomplicated.”
  • “If you’re deprived of sleep, meditation can help you get caught up.”
  • “When you’re in the groove and developed the habit and you’re able to really go into that calm state for good bits of time without the mind fluctuating all over the place, you really start to feel like you have the world by the tail.”
  • “Look at it as a lifetime investment.”
  • “I get up as early as I need to, to get my exercise and meditation in.”

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